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March 20, 2023

FILED IN: Money Mindset

If you’re like most women, you probably have a love-hate relationship with money. On one hand, it’s great to have when you need it—but on the other hand, it can trigger some really big feelings when you spend it, don’t have it or it causes tension in your life. If you’re looking for a way […]

January 9, 2023

FILED IN: Business

As the new year has arrived we can take this time to reflect on our goals and how we want to move forward in the coming year. For creative women in business, setting goals can be an exciting opportunity to get organised, especially when it comes to creating new initiatives or launching a side hustle. […]

December 25, 2022

FILED IN: Business

It’s that time of the year again when we look back at everything we’ve done in the past year. And while it has undoubtedly been a year of local and global ups and downs, I’m always looking for that silver lining. Usually, the sentimental moments happen for me with a glass of bubbles in the […]

December 11, 2022

My Top Money Tips for the Festive Season… Christmas, November, and December always used to stress me out so much. Like anxiety vomit in the middle of the night kind of stress.  It’s less so these days. But for a long time, the festive season used to bring out the worst money guilt, fear and […]

November 27, 2022

FILED IN: Business

It was a toxic cycle of charging more, over-deliver, so charging more and over-deliver. Sell people into a thousand-dollar a month coaching package and then double down on the value.

November 13, 2022

FILED IN: Business

Success would be allowing myself the space and boundaries to work when I’m at work … and then going to the beach and being at the beach (not thinking about work). I love what I do, but as my business grows and demands more of me, it also requires my health, mental and physical, so boundaries become more important than anything

October 31, 2022

FILED IN: parenting

My work saves me … It shouldn’t. I know it’s not meant to … I’m meant to self-care, take a bubble bath, go for a walk, and all that bullshit that’s meant to relax me … it doesn’t. If I’m ever feeling overwhelmed, anxious, overly emotional, struggling, or just DONE with being a mum to […]

October 2, 2022

FILED IN: Money Mindset

So you want to manifest a tone of money right ???? You’re saying the affirmations, setting the intentions, wearing your selenite, visualizing yourself with your check from the universe …. so why isn’t it working ?

September 4, 2022

FILED IN: Business

For me … “sales calls” discovery calls, insert cliche name here —— calls ….. are not the vibe. Not that there isn’t a place for a “get to know you call” but somewhere along the line these turned from friendly conversations to scripted manipulations

August 21, 2022

I’ve always been the responsible one, the empathetic one, the one that gets on with her work, the one that organises the group, the one that people come to vent their problems …I was proud of that, I thrived in that .. until I didn’t.